Thursday, November 23, 2017

If you understand the mechanics of an "emotion", you can then "work" them to your highest happiness...

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If you understand that an emotion is a reaction of the mind to a situation, intended to have you go into motion to better your survival in some way...  If you understand that it is just a mechanical reaction, with electrobiochemical signals going through our body and its brain part...  If you understand that it does not “mean” anything else, other than being a mechanical, objective (yes, it is objective) way for the body to get into action to create a favorable outcome... (See Emotions main page.)

If you understand those, then you will be on the way to effectively “managing your emotions” and not “feel bad about them” (feeling bad is an emotion, in a sense).


WHY DO WE "FEEL BAD"?

Why do we “feel bad” about something?

So we can fix whatever seems to be the problem.

Simple motivation (based on our evolved survival instincts).

The mind very simplistically coughs up anything that might be associated in some way to a particular situation, and then it “sorts” through them on a mechanical basis (usually the “emotional charge” on something) to select what is to be done and then it emotes the signal to the body/mind to do an action (a "motion", out there, where "e" means out) that will help resolve or make the situation better (for higher survival, including safety all the way to feeling better).

That’s it.

It's all mechanical.

No little gremlins or “saboteurs” inside us.  No “inner child” or other metaphorical “entities.”  Just mechanics. (Most of the mechanics involve false beliefs or outdated instincts that no longer work, in today's world.)

And, once you understand how the mechanics work you can then learn “how to work them” to your advantage.  You simply identify a step that didn’t work (i.e., it caused an undesired result: “negative” feeling that we don’t wish to keep repeating) and learn/identify a “step” that works and replace the step .


THERE IS A MECHANICAL PROCESS

The process of getting from “something happened” to the end result is always a “sequence of steps that works to cause and/or leads to the next step.

It looks like the following diagram, though there are several steps within each of these bigger categories.

Something happens —> Interpret —> Evaluate —> Decide —> Emotion --> Act

Note that it always works this way!  (Even if we are not conscious of each step.)

Notice that we can change a number of things about how we interpret something - and correct our false beliefs that support the interpretation that leads to a less good next step.  The beliefs underlying how we evaluate something (as a big threat, little one, not a threat at all) can also be corrected. Each correction of a step in the process improves the results we get from the process - that is our purpose for doing "the work" necessary to better our lives!

The Buddha advised us to examine life’s experiences and our reaction to them. The process of being aware of and thinking about such is called "Mindfulness", wherein one first pays attention in order to notice and see what is going on AND then examines what is going on in order to create better results in life.  Mindfulness is simply thinking about what is going on, what happened, what are the sensations being felt...and, then, most likely, looking at what the beliefs were that created them (though that part is often done later, which is why a mindful person might write at the time about what was going on, especially the beliefs and thoughts that caused the emotions, as best he/she could).  Simple. 

When we “manage” the thinking (belief) process, we then are able to better get what we want out of life.

Simple truth...


WHAT TO DO

If you are willing to do the work to create great happiness, then what might you do next?

Obviously, at least understand overall "emotions" and the beliefs that cause them.

You would, of course, start with reading the Emotions main page.

You might then start on changing the key beliefs that underlie most of your negative reactions. See  Core Beliefs Underlying Negative Harmful Thinking.

And then you'd expand out from there to other beliefs that support such thinking and you'd learn the super-principle of Zero Fault - a MUST if one is to be highly happy! 

Ultimately you would get to the point of doing Effective Thinking, applied to your beliefs and ways of doing things in the world.  (Note that critical thinking sounds like it takes the joy out of things, but it is actually the path to being able to create more joy in life, removing the obstacles to such!)  The process you would use is called, amazingly, The Beliefs Changing Process.

At some point, it would be advisable to find the key beliefs that bug you by linking to the specific belief (many specific ones are already addressed, with solutions, in the right column in the Beliefs And Thoughts Contents, Links page) and correcting them to what will work to get our desired results and emotions!  And/or you can approach it through the list of specific emotions and issues in the right column of Emotions, Contents, Links page.)

The end result of this process is that you will end up Fearless and "Life Powerful", resulting in your being able to create whatever you desire in life without all those false barriers AND resulting in your creating high happiness in life.  As we go toward the end purpose of life (highest happiness), we must arrive at the point of actually being a Self Actualized Person (getting to it by starting from the point of correcting beliefs!).

So, now, the "work" begins, the path is embarked upon, and "soon" we will find ourselves operating and feeling much better, as we progress up the path more and more and more and more....!!!!!!!!

(If you do this diligently, you will find that your life will be dramatically elevated in just a few months - and that the elevation will continue and continue and continue...as you will stick to the process once you've seen the benefits of applying the process!)

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Tuesday, November 21, 2017

Fear is an emotion...but we can eliminate 99% of all fears

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Tim Ferriss puts forth an interesting, and valid, way of dealing with fears:  Fear-Setting (listen to the video of his Ted talk).  The key to getting rid of fears is...  ...amazingly, defining them and bringing them in out of the cold vagueness that allows them to persist when they are not useful and,  indeed, sometimes harmful (at least to our psyche).

Fears, other than the instant signal when there is true danger, are based strictly on beliefs that there is a threat when there is no actual, real, true threat other than in our minds.  Those beliefs are 100% correctable.  In correcting them, you will eliminate 95-99% of fears - and the unpleasantness and energy sucked up by the useless flailing around in them.

One should, as soon as possible, at least address one’s top 10 fears (or dilemmas you are currently in where you feel fear) and eliminate them (and amazingly one will find that other related fears just drop away into nothingness, seen as the nonsense that they are).

Consider learning about this and then applying what is in The Fear/Anxiety Management Program.  You would then learn to master this area until you are virtually Fearless.

Note that one cannot be happy in the “space” that is held by fear...they cannot co-exist, you MUST eliminate the opposite of what you want!  (It’s more than worth the time!!!!!!)
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The reason for the title of this blog post:. Fear itself is an emotion, an instant reaction to a perceived threat, built into our DNA.  Prolonged fear is based on false beliefs and faulty ways of thinking of “threats” and believing in them.  The “instinctual” fear will remain in place, duly protecting us from the real threats (physical ones) when needed, but the prolonged, faux, anticipatory fears will melt away!
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Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Critical to life: what you think and what you let into your life!



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This PickTheBrain post should be taken very, very seriously.  We allow our “standards” in this regard to be compromised, thinking “it’s ok” or “it’s minor” - but it isn’t!!!!   It’s major.  You should not, for a moment, let anything less than what is good for you into your mind... 

You are likely to have dismissed this before as being too trivial or unimportant, but this time I hope you take it seriously AND do something about it!

Read and then heed:  Your Life Is Just What You Think It Into Being.


WHAT TO DO ABOUT THIS

You can certainly think “oh, that might have some validity, and, of course, I’ve heard it before”, but that is the seed of dismissal and laxity.

The question is always “how can I use this, and what should I do, to better my life?”.

If you seriously do this, I promise that in reality (not just in some mystical way) you will transform your life because you transformed your “conversation” in life.  Your conversation in life is at the core, the center, of your very life.   See One’s Sustained Background Conversation Determines The Quality Of One’s Life.

The suggested exercise, after reading the above link, is to write down every single thing that is negative that comes into your head, either from your thoughts (and what you say) or from outside sources (people, tv, in print) for a full day (or at least four hours).  You would then look at the list and decide what sources to eliminate and what of your own thinking to modify (such as is suggested in the link provided in the previous paragraph).

If you don’t seriously do this, your life will stay the same and you’re likely to continue “living in the drift”, living the life of a gradually boiling frog, dissipating into the PokeyMan life, and reliving a close facsimile of Groundhog Day.

Your choice.  A little mental exercise for a few hours and a great change in life...or let things slide along...

[Remember: whenever you don't have time to do what appears to be worthwhile, you should "tickle" it to come up at a time when you can do it,,,or put it into your calendar right now, reserving time for it.  See How To  Smartly Use A Blog.]
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Monday, November 13, 2017

Living life in control of what you think? Or by default...???? Great commencement address, and discussion!


Controlling this is “Job 1” in life - and the most important determinant of your happiness and quality of life.  It needs to be done as soon as possible - and as completely as possible, though most people just do small forays into it, leaving damaging thinking in place.

This video “nails” down how to live a better life, one that is conscious and aware instead of lived by default (aka Living In The Drift).

This Is Water (22:43), David Foster Wallace, commencement address.

We live our lives with blindly certain closed-mindedness, not realizing much of what we believe is wrong and uncertain (much of which will lead us into living lesser lives).

We live accordingly to our default hard-wiring in our head, being its slave instead of its master.  We, at least to a large degree, go through life dead, unconscious, controlled by default thinking and meaninglessness - full of boredom, routine, and petty matters - IF we don’t make a conscious decision on what to think about and how to think

But those who choose to do the work of adjusting that hard-wiring will be “well-adjusted”, and aware and much more conscious and causative of life, in control over how and what they think - instead of lost in abstract, often negative, thoughts.

Those who live consciously and deliberately decide what has meaning and what doesn’t - and then they adjust what they do in life accordingly, living much fuller, much more meaningful, satisfying lives.  They avoid being “eaten alive” by false meanings and goals and untested beliefs.

The choice lies between unthinking, automatic, default, unconscious thinking, being a slave of a non-thinking mind, versus living in real freedom, directing your attention and intentionally being fully aware.


WHAT TO DO ABOUT THIS

Of course, the first thing to do in any area, always, is to learn the fundamentals of

1.  How things work, then
2.  How to work them (to get the outcome you want!)

Essential reading would include The Believing Brain book, but the quick fundamentals of the book could be “gotten” by reading on the site The Believing Brain summary.

Then, also on the site, Thought Management - The Program For Learning And Implementation, which has a few linked pieces that will tie the fundamentals together.

The actual revision of one’s beliefs is a “one at a time” task, at first.  But what actually occurs is that, once a basic core belief is changed, that many other beliefs based on the core belief begin to fall away like dominoes, freeing oneself forever from the repeating negativity of such beliefs.  See The Program For Upgrading Your Beliefs.

You’ve probably stabbed at altering a few beliefs, but then stopped short of completion.  This time I recommend that you totally conquer the ones that have you feeling bad or less powerful - and that you don’t leave a single harmful one in place to plague your life over the years!

Of course, to do so, you need a path to follow.  I've provided some paths (above) on the site.  Just follow those instead of starting from scratch and figuring it all out yourself (which usually gets dropped early in the process, never providing completion).

The rare individual, the one who will absolutely live a great life, will choose to do his/her background life-learning to form a solid foundation for life, using the to-the-point-quickly reading sequence in The Only Sure Path To The Greatest Life.  (If you have glanced at this piece before, I recommend that you re-look and that you commit to completing it.  It will provide a platform upon which you can construct an effective, happy life on a super strong foundation based on what is true and workable in life.)

Yes, few will do the work.  But those few who do will have a powerful impact on the world, both internally and on others.

Will you step up and consciously, avidly construct the life that will truly work for you - and not stop short (this time) of creating that base from which you can truly launch a great life?!?

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