YOU'RE NOT SO SPECIAL,, BUT...

Barbara,

Have you read under the Philosophy section (click title above to link), then go to 'OVERALL' section:

"A VIEW OF LIFE, AND GETTING THAT VIEW INTO EFFECT" - Is the
world supportive and is there really anything to be upset about? How can I be happy?

and the piece called:

"A VIEW OF ONESELF IN LIFE, A VIEW NEEDING 'SUBSTANTIAL' REWORK" - Would it benefit us to "re-work" some of our assumptions,
viewpoints, and beliefs about life, formed without knowledge or reasoning from a powerless and dependent viewpoint?

In the first are the viewpoints that:

1. We are awesomely fortunate to have been born, period.

2. The world is remarkably supporting.

And it is important to install those into our life philosophy in order to be feel good and be more powerful in life.

In the second is the startling following comments about what you made up as a small child:

"One you made up is that you need to be special in order to be loved and fed – and you still make up that you need to be special, although you’re now an adult! But as an adult, it is grandiose of you to think you are special in this world. You just aren’t. You’re just another human being and when you finally accept that, then you can begin the task of filling up life with good experiences and just becoming more and more yourself – and not wasting time on getting special privileges or trying to prove to others or yourself that you’re special. (Of course, you’re special in your world, your “universe” – so that is why you will put yourself first.[1]) No one person is worth one iota more or less than another!

You’ll realize you do not need to be better than someone else to survive. You’ll stop the childish practice of comparison and the outdated assessment of survivability in “the tribe”. (footnote). You’ll simply say: Let me look at what is available and then choose, while in a rational state, what I want to do. You’ll realize that there are rarely any really threatening outside circumstances or people. You’ll accept reality and not operate in the illusion that you can’t respond to any situation and come out ok (because you’ll not be stuck in wasting energy and/or creating fear around the possibility that you are not better than someone else).
[1] Your lower minds are programmed (evolved) to assure your survival, with no one else having any comparative importance. You will put yourself first, logically, to “survive”. Now it is true that once survival is not seen as being threatened we will begin doing things that are beyond survival and we’ll be more socially conscious – but even then we will do it because it feels good and/or gets us something else. This is without exception, though we seem selfless when we do things for others seemingly without any personal gain – but that’s impossible, for we won’t do those things if there is not a positive result for ourselves! We’ll do it to think well of ourselves or to have others think well of us, which gives us “credit” in relationships and in our mind’s tally of our worthiness."

Please make sure you consider the reasoning in these fully, as it will serve you in achieving the life you want, at last.

Keith

(If the link, clicking the article title, doesn't work, go to http://www.thelifemanagementalliance.com/ , Philosophy.)