NO NEED FOR UNHAPPINESS ANYMORE

It is remarkable when one sees it - that we, not realities, create our own unhappiness. AND we create it from not accepting reality and expecting it to be so different.

Tara Brach, in her book Radical Acceptance (one of the top must read books for my old guru), says (see my summary in the Acceptance section of The Site, click on title):

Almost all threats are not real and are strictly fabricated as a childish way of “protecting” oneself from the concept of “non-survival,” there is nothing left to not accept.

The false beliefs that cause us not to accept (and cause us suffering) are:

- We are defective, unworthy, incomplete, basically flawed, something is fundamentally wrong with us.

- Something bad is going to happen.

- We must avoid disapproval.


We adapt to our false beliefs by spending our time, energies, and lives on:

1. Trying to manage the pain, trying to soothe ourselves
2. Avoiding the pain
3. Trying to stave it off by replaying worries and plans
4. Addictions (substances, people, romance, stimulation) that numb us out
5. Hiding who we are and operating in fear of being discovered.
The irony here is that we don’t know who we are and we assume we are
everything around us. We are pure awareness and love.

Ironic - we created the pain - and then we try to manage it. There are huge amounts of time and energy saved when we stop this game!

Then the only question is "How high shall I go?" [Feeling free, effortlessly...]