The "Cure" Lies Not In Giant Leaps But In Doing Doable Steps

The conversation that "I have to be more confident and then I'll be happy" has some mistruth in it, but the biggest factor is that confidence (or any desired state) is only attainable through discreet "doables".

"Doables" are actual actions you can take to "get to" some desired result. One cannot "do" the result, one can only do the steps to the result.

When a person says "I have done that before and I haven't achieved the results" that means that they did not find the discreet steps that need to be done to get to the result - that they did something else which sounded similar but was, for sure, incomplete.

An extreme example is "I have tried positive thinking before and it didn't work." The problem is not "positive thinking", but identifying all the steps to implement that state of being and to get the ultimate results that one wants.

As Tony Robbins (and any NLP practitioner) would say: If you can find out exactly what the other person did, you can achieve the results that the other person achieved.

Again, if you did not get the result, it is that you didn't discover and then do the doables.

May you achieve much success in what it takes for you to be truly happy,

Keith

Also, note that one can eliminate alot of pain if one solves the "cause" of a problem and not just the symptoms:
http://happyeffectivelife.blogspot.com/2009/08/eliminating-97-of-pain-in-life.html

Link to The Basis For Using Doables - There Is No Success Without This:
http://www.thelifemanagementalliance.com/LifeMgmt/SuccessRe8d/Doables.html