Learn, set the rules, no criticism -- & Happiness

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THE ROAD TO A HARD, UNHAPPY  LIFE

Violate the rules (known or not)

                      ↓

Bad results 

                      ↓

Critical of self

                      ↓

Feel bad (and one doesn't fix the rules)

                      ↓
A hard, unhappy life

THE ROAD TO THE GREAT LIFE

Scenario #1

Violate the rules (not yet know them)

                     ↓

Bad results 

                     ↓

Note bad results, accept as is (no criticism)

                     ↓

Learn, fix, set rules
                     ↓

Great life

Scenario #2

 Learn and set the rules ahead of time

                     ↓

Good results

                     ↓

Great life


Results of both scenarios:  Better rules.

IT'S SIMPLE

Learn the rules (capture them, in a notebook or...)

     Ahead, if possible, ASAP

     Set them as you go, fixing after bad results

Never criticize self

     Understand it's just a "not yet knowing"

Note that criticizing oneself and feeling bad are bad results from a bad set of "rules", based on false beliefs.  (It is NOT true that one needs criticism as a motivator, though some people keep on insisting it is a "given" - that's bad non-reasoning based on no facts.) 

IT'S EASIER TO FIX THE RULES!

It might look harder, but it's easier to do the learning as far ahead of time as possible, as one then follows the rules that work, thus getting the desired results - and a lot more of the good results than those who don't learn proactively on a systematic program.   Life is easier when one doesn't make extra mistakes, period, AND it also takes time to clean up the mistakes and do the repairs - it takes less time to learn in the first place - by far!!!!!!!!

WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DO THIS?

Well, there are actually two parts to this:  Learning and fixing a problem.  One has a problem when one has a "gap" between where one is and where one wants to be - so we do simple problem solving first (sometimes having to go deeper) using the standard sequenced process to do so.  

The learning has 2 parts.  

1.  to instigate learning right after an indication that learning is needed - simply by observing that one made a mistake by not knowing what was needed.  

2.  To proactively instigate learning ahead of time, following a program that has one learn and build a set of rules to follow.  

In both of the learning parts, it is necessary that one actually do 2 strategies once the rule is initially learned:

1.. Install the rules. (Read them daily until "memorized".)

2.  Recall the rules as needed (either in the brain inside one's head or in the added "external memory").

We have all experienced the "I knew better, I just forgot".  We want, instead, to both know better and to not forget - which means to be able to access the rule for use.  

Since we can only retain and recall a large but limited amount of data, we must add a large, not limited extra external memory 

One useful device is the Reminders Notebook, where there is a tab for "rules".  As you develop them you will expand the original list into rules by areas, so you can access a specific area when you want to.

Regardless of how you organize the rules for reference, it should be helpful for you to start at the page Rules and then link to and copy as many as you can, so you have a starter collection which you can then modify and add to. 

This seemingly small thing can make a huge difference in one's life.  I recommend that you put this high on your priority list!!!