Not knowing - there is no fault, there is simply...

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DEALING, INAPPROPRIATELY, WITH BLOCKS DUE TO "NOT KNOWING" 

We often run into something that blocks us and frustrates our going ahead on what we want.

At that point, we can go into a self-reinforcing tailspin or we can use our higher brain to intervene.

However, many people will react in the way they might have learned as a child: use a method that the child thinks works to motivate better behavior - but it doesn't actually, (See Blame, Criticism....)

 When running across something that is unknown, some people say "oh, what a moron I am!" or "oh, I'm so dumb in computers (science, thinking...)".  

But the truth is only that they have not yet put in the time to learn what is needed.  

And the truth is that we do not have the time to learn everything, so we need to let it be that we won't know something - and then we have to be aware that there is an alternative solution, that of using other resources and other people's brains, so that you do not have to know it yourself.

At this point in the thinking process, it is time to convert the misbelief of the child into a "corrected belief".  In doing so, you would follow the Belief Changing Process, and you'd end up with some restatement that is true. 

THE RESTATEMENT

The basic affirmation or statement might go something like this.  

"The truth is that I do not have the time to learn everything and there are simply some things I haven't spent the time to learn yet.  

There is no fault in not knowing something, there is only "not yet knowing".  

However, I have the ability to decide what is worth the time to learn and I also have the ability to do anything that any other human has done if I but spend the time to learn what they have done to succeed." 

NOT "BUYING INTO" THIS PERSPECTIVE/TRUTH

However, many people might not fully "buy into" the above concept, as they note that they can't even do some of the basics in life or in thinking.  

Well, that simply means that they have some more work (learning) to do to get those basics in place.  While it would be nice not to have to spend the time, bemoaning the fact that you have to do so will not do any good.  The fact is that you MUST learn those basics or you'll be unable to do the higher level things in life.  So, you should get right to it, if this applies to you.

They are not "bad" for "not yet knowing" those, they simply do not yet know AND must spend the time necessary if they deem it worthwhile to learn what is "not yet known".  (See, and, at some point, make sure that you know and operate by this perspective: No Fault - Just "Not Yet Knowing".) 

THE OLD METHOD OF COPING IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE

The old childhood concept of "being a hopeless moron" is just another false belief based on feeling and seeing oneself as powerless to control or change oneself or one's life.   Of course, the truth is that you have (or can learn) the power to control and change yourself!!!!  (See The Skill Of Change.)

WHAT TO DO NEXT

If you're a complete user of the basic systems of life management on the site, you would write down the completed statement of your corrected belief in your Reminders Notebook and then "install" it (reading it daily for awhile).  

Often times, to really solidify something and to install it, we need to do more reading on it, so you'd follow the links from No Fault - Just "Not Yet Knowing", and keep on going down the various links until you are "complete" on it, at the level of Sufficient Knowing.

Note that we skipped over some of the pieces of Belief Changing Process, so you can, if you still feel you haven't "gotten the point to the extent that it will remain in your mind", do some journaling or other writing about it and then run them through "the process".  

Note that it is vital that you get this "not yet knowing, no fault" understanding down cold, as it is one of the key determiners of the quality of life, as it eliminates one of the causes for unhappiness and negative emotions (even worry)!!!!