Updating your clarity (etc.) about sex and being very smart in it...

From the Farnam Street Blog, one of my top recommended blogs, on a subject that most people could use some "updating" on!  (It is from his "what I'm reading" section. Click on his link to order the book.)

"Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

An intelligent and human approach that merges Emily's years of experience as a sex educator and the social side of sex with proper science until it dovetails into a fuller understanding of what sex can be to you as a person.  Worth reading, if only for her style, I wish more people could write like this — engaging, quirky, honest and unapologetic. This was a conversation with a person, not a sex-ed class. Through uncovering a deeper understanding, our experiences change. The book is aimed at women and also comes as an eye opener for men. The tour includes handy anatomical details and forays into what society tells us we should think about sex, dispelling myths in a way that will make a practical difference. The most radical ideas in the book are not about sex but rather highlight our need for attunement to each other. Ultimately, if we learn to treat ourselves right we can be more responsive to others' needs.  And yes, there is a step by step guide to orgasm in the appendix.