Why would you ever say a negative, if it has this effect?????

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"It turns out that our brains are literally hardwired to perform at their best not when they are negative or even neutral, but when they are positive." Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage

People still let themselves say, or think about, negative things. Somehow, they believe, that stating the negative or staying in a negative mode will be helpful - but that belief is not at all valid - it is plain wrong!

Just ask yourself: "If I am focusing on a negative, on a problem, on something "bad", how could I possibly move forward in my life?"

But though it is absurd that people could think that any negative would serve them or be helpful in any way, a huge effect occurs that causes one to be dysfunctional in many way, but one predominantly important way. One's higher brain cannot be used very well, if at all, when one is agitated, anxious, fearful, or thinking of anything that is negative.

Anyone who has at all studied the operation of the brain should be aware of this effect.

And that means that they should take it seriously.

Which means that beyond the occurrence of the inevitable random thoughts, a negative should never be entertained or allowed to stay in one's internal or external conversation. NEVER! Why on earth, if someone understood basic psychology (that the higher brain shuts down in the fight/flight fear response), would they allow even a little bit of the emotional toxins to get into their head???

It is ABSURD AT THE EXTREME to continue to allow the negatives into one's life!!!!

As suggested before, but I fear unheard or at least unheeded, we should have zero tolerance for any negative chatter.

The only time to "be in the negative" is to look to see what it is, to label the emotion (specifically), and to decide that one does not want to have that negative feeling. Accordingly, it is appropriate to focus on it long enough to write it down (or at least counter it), define it, and set it up, using the forms provided, to solve the problem. The rule is to spend less than 5% of one's time on the problem and 95% on the solution - otherwise we are giving our lives away to what we don't want to have.

Will you pledge to never, ever passively allow negative thinking/talking into your head? (See No Negative Conversations!)

___ Yes, I pledge it, for the rest of my life.

___ No, I have good reason to let it continue (let me know what it is: Contact)

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It turns out that our brains are literally hardwired to perform

at their best not when they are negative or even neutral, but

when they are positive.

It turns out that our brains are literally hardwired to perform

at their best not when they are negative or even neutral, but

when they are positive.