THE REASON WE ARE NOT EFFECTIVE AT BEHAVIOR CHANGE

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The reason we are not effective at change is that we are not following the full process for effective change.  We use the wrong process or we fail to complete the process, and then we conclude that we are broken or that “humans are just humans” and are not capable of it (i.e. they are victims of it).  

I pulled the following reasons why effective change doesn’t happen from The Complete Worksheet For Effective Behavioral Change - The Complete Process To Succeed In Change.

“WHAT MAKES THIS NOT WORK

__ I quit too soon. I stop short.  I do not complete (and then I conclude that it didn’t work, 

     when the real problem was that I didn’t DO the work!!!). 

__ I leave off steps or fail to execute them fully, thinking I can take a short cut and not 

     realizing that they are all necessary to make the whole thing work!

__ I succumb to blaming the process for not working, when I should note that it didn’t work

     and then keep on persisting on finding what’s missing and should be added or what’s a 

    wrong step in the system.  I go passive, fall victim to it, instead of going “all the way” to   

    correcting and persisting to the point I actually get the desired results.

__ I fail to notice that the new behavior begins to fade and/or I fail heed the fact that I am not  

     getting the results I want, that I am getting bad results!  And/or I just don’t do the necessary 

     repairs to fix/repair the system.”

So, the question I have for you, is will you choose to follow through to become really, really good at effective change or will you…?