HAPPINESS - RECONSTRUCTING OUR VIEWPOINTS

Barbara,

Although the coaching program will follow the skills development (as in the earlier posting on it) process, we will also be "eating the elephant" a bite at a time and thoroughly digesting each piece, so we won't have to, anymore, "repeat what we do not complete".*

An excerpt from Reconstructing Our Viewpoints And Mindsets To Increase Happiness**: (Click on the link below, next to **).

UNREALISTIC COMPARISON CREATES UNHAPPINESS

One very successful scientist who wrote a book about how he came out of depression, said there were two things he had to change in order to decrease his unhappiness with the “gap” between where he thought he was and where he thought he should be:

1. Change the “standard” for you to be happy with where you are so it is not unreachable, so it is more reasonable.

2. Change the underestimation and undervaluation of where you are.


The happiness gap:

^---------- Artificially high standard or ideal-------------
l Gap 1
----------- Where you actually are------------> Total gap
l Gap 2
v---------- Where you think you are ---------------------


Where focus attention for greatest payoff?


.....Core <-- Greatest payoff .

...Level 2 – Good experiences
... Level 3 - Outside experiences"

(See the written piece by linking below next to **, to see what this means.)

Barbara, we'll be using the "completion process" to gradually lower the top line, unrealistic expectations - one of the things we'll do there is use the context of Buddhism, but explained in english - soon to come.

Next, we'll raise your assessment of yourself (and your life) by removing , one at a time, the things that cause that unrealistic assessment.

We'll do this until the bottom line comes up to the top line (and then we'll keep on going above even that)! Hopefully, this gives you some more context to "see" where we are going and to give you some perspective on this incredible journey we are taking to Completion.

Keith

*Link: www.thelifemanagementalliance.com/lifemgmt/learningandthinking/skilldevelopmenteffectivesimple.doc
**Link:
www.thelifemanagementalliance.com/Psychological/Happiness/Reconstructmindset.doc