Transition - From Victim To Creator Of Life

Barbara,

During this next month or so you're probably going to feel like there is "no progress" and/or "this isn't working", but keep on doing the assigned exercises as we're building something for the long term.

One of the big things we are doing is working at creating "context", like a way of viewing things or a position from which to view things. This is necessary to create "bigger learning", consistent with the piece on skill development and how people become experts (or geniuses).

You'll be moving from the (fictional) victim/child construct over to "I am the creator" viewpoint. The belief that one is a victim is a totally "made up" self statement, one that would not meet the criteria of "is it true?" The question is answered "no", as it is not a given, permanent thing that you are. However, the answer to that question for "I am the creator" would have to be answered: "yes, it is true" (scientifically verifiable).

Gradually, over the next little while, you will begin to shift more and more to realizing the truth of the one and the "not truth" of the other. In fact, although it might seem silly and like it won't be effective, it is a good idea to use this as an affirmation, one that is so memorized that it can be brought up every time you are "feeling" like a victim/child. Feeling like a "victim/child" is shown by statements like "oh, it's so difficult" or "oh, this'll never work" or, a real good one, "that's just the way I am" [equivalent to "that's the way I've been in the past and I can't change that, so that is the way I'll be in the future" - poppycock!]

You can also catch yourself when you're feeling the "victim" of working on getting someone else's approval (a piece is coming soon).

So, your affirmation (and, hopefully, eventually, your absolute commitment) will be: "I am the creator." If you want, you can reinforce it with other sayings like: "I am the captain of my ship and the master of my life".

These recognize that it is you who determine all your responses and actions and thoughts and beliefs that you'll choose to operate from (and it is NOT your past). "Creator" is the point from which you exercise power over life, where you are "at cause" and no longer "at the effect" of other people and circumstances. Where you embrace all that you have and fully utilize it!

Keith
(Click on title to link to go to Power In Life, under Life Management and at least read Responsibility Versus Victimhood.)