Tolerating false beliefs?

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A man lives at the level he tolerates in his life.

Are you willing to give away much of your life by keeping the beliefs that are keeping you where you are, living in fear of fear, anxiety, shame, guilt - or will you change your beliefs, not a little dribble here and there but in a magnificent, focused, intensive leap forward?

Stop Selling Your Soul for Nothing
 
Far better to be wrongly judged by others than to live with the fear one has of being judged wrongly by them...and to sell one's soul oneself for the sake of their approval.

Shatter the Bonds of False Beliefs and Be Free

Near the end of a busy afternoon, a senior caddie at an exclusive golf club was making his appointed rounds -- double-checking that everything was in its proper place -- when he entered the clubhouse locker room. Much to his shock, he saw an obviously completely exhausted man spread-eagled on the floor.

A moment later, he recognized the man as a fairly new member of the club. At first he feared the man may have fallen and hit his head, but after touching him gently, the man leaped to his feet, a terrified look in his eye.

"Are you all right?" asked the caddie. "You gave me a start, finding you lying there like that."

"Yes... sorry, really... yes... I'm okay," answered the man.

"Are you sure? You look completely drained. If you don't mind me asking, how many rounds of golf did you play today? Never saw a man so tired as to pass out on the floor!"

Hesitating a bit, the member replied, "Well, truthfully, I haven't been out to play yet."

Squinting his eyes, trying to fathom what the man had said, the caddie asked, "I'm not sure I understand, then. You look as if you'd played seventy-two holes."

The man's face turned slightly red, obviously embarrassed over something, and then he answered, barely above a whisper, "I guess I was so worried about making a good impression -- what with being new here and all -- that while I was getting dressed to play, I had so many fearful thoughts about my swing, I must have worn myself out!"

The caddie just smiled, knowing exactly what the man had just put himself through. He understood just how easy it was to bury oneself under the weight of false beliefs and the equally false set of responsibilities that come with them.

In this instance, to believe that we're only as worthwhile as others agree to see us burdens us with feeling that winning the good opinion of others is somehow our responsibility. Such a mistaken mindset leaves us the perennial victim of our relationships and never the victor in them.

The only way we can be released from any painful sense of false responsibility is to see that it is based in a false belief. To see through the false belief is to be released from the weight of useless false responsibilities.

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Why spend your life frightening yourself, driving yourself to anxiety, giving away your life to coping with what you have yourself created out of not yet knowing better?

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Where do I start?   

Do the intensive program approach, all in one immersion week, like at the Hoffman Institute.

Or, a program that takes your managing yourself (not recommended unless you are good at managing yourself, since you are just fooling yourself and frustrating yourself by starting something you won't actually do!). Do the extensive Program For Upgrading Your Beliefs (links to The Site.