“In fact, we rarely, if ever, question our long-held beliefs.
If you ever wonder why people do what they do, again, you need to remember that human beings are not random creatures: all of our actions are the result of our beliefs.
Whatever we do, it is out of our conscious or unconscious beliefs about what will lead to pleasure or away from pain.
If you want to create long-term and consistent changes in your behaviors, you must change the beliefs that are holding you back [or causing emotional pain].”
(Bolding and bracketing is added by me.). Robbins, Anthony. “Re-Awaken the Giant Within.”
If we draw a diagram of the general process we engage in in our life, this is what it looks like.
Event → Belief filter → Access info → Decide → Act → Get result
Note that the belief filters determine the whole rest of what happens! Therefore, changing our beliefs is the #1 thing to do, for the the rest of the process will not work if the belief is wrong. [A chain is only as strong as its weakest link.)
Our beliefs about events include pre-conceptions and misinterpretations, which promptly lead us down the wrong path.
Our beliefs include the "if, thens" in life. If I do this, then I will get "x".
If I don't get approval of others, then that means I am ... Depending on what that is, it could govern and sabotage one's whole life.
For instance, one great guy was so afraid of disapproval that he wouldn't turn in reports to his bosses, wouldn't fill out his application (after he was assured entry) to a super-school, and didn't complete his master's thesis. Did that change his life in its content and in his regrets and fears? Of course.
To not solve the problem, as early as possible, will have a determining influence on one's life.
He was smart enough to do it and he certainly could have gotten the help to do it, but...
The point here is that you cannot allow any (impactful) misbelief to not be corrected asap, regardless of the cost or the time!
[This is a part of the discussion on systems (beliefs are systems) and the work that must be done per Robbins book above, which can be downloaded for free and Sam Carpenter's The Systems Mindset, which can also be downloaded free.]
Lead page on this site: Changing Beliefs (link to The Complete Steps By Step Belief Reconstruction Procedure).
If we draw a diagram of the general process we engage in in our life, this is what it looks like.
Event → Belief filter → Access info → Decide → Act → Get result
Note that the belief filters determine the whole rest of what happens! Therefore, changing our beliefs is the #1 thing to do, for the the rest of the process will not work if the belief is wrong. [A chain is only as strong as its weakest link.)
Our beliefs about events include pre-conceptions and misinterpretations, which promptly lead us down the wrong path.
Our beliefs include the "if, thens" in life. If I do this, then I will get "x".
If I don't get approval of others, then that means I am ... Depending on what that is, it could govern and sabotage one's whole life.
For instance, one great guy was so afraid of disapproval that he wouldn't turn in reports to his bosses, wouldn't fill out his application (after he was assured entry) to a super-school, and didn't complete his master's thesis. Did that change his life in its content and in his regrets and fears? Of course.
To not solve the problem, as early as possible, will have a determining influence on one's life.
He was smart enough to do it and he certainly could have gotten the help to do it, but...
The point here is that you cannot allow any (impactful) misbelief to not be corrected asap, regardless of the cost or the time!
[This is a part of the discussion on systems (beliefs are systems) and the work that must be done per Robbins book above, which can be downloaded for free and Sam Carpenter's The Systems Mindset, which can also be downloaded free.]
Lead page on this site: Changing Beliefs (link to The Complete Steps By Step Belief Reconstruction Procedure).
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