One of the key perceptual, conceptual mistakes we make in life is to assume that there is some mysterious force in our mind that rules us. But all, and I mean all, ancient, tried and tested thought disciplines teach you this, which you've heard over and over again, but most likely not bought into: "You are not your thoughts/emotions. Thoughts are just thoughts. Feelings are just feelings."
But, then, we get this "urge" and feel compelled to react to it, as if the mind was the ruler. A huge, huge, wasteful mistake!
If you want to have true power in life, true mastery over your life, you must get out from under the belief that you are your mind or any of its components or that you are some persona, such as "inner child" or "victim". You must see who you are.
You can link to those from this overall piece: Disassociating With The Mind, Emotions, And Thoughts - Not Trite Or Small Or Ethereal, But Hugely Affecting. (Be sure to read the linked pages!)
I recommend that you fully understand this and master it. It is not difficult...and it is all doable!
Yours toward maximum personal power,
Keith
(While you're at it, you might wish to delve into selected pieces in the Contents/Links Power In Life page.)
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Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Thoughts Cause Emotions, Not Events - Do you completely "get" it?
I recommend that you read and get clear on the principles and understanding involved in ABCDEF ("Rational Analysis"), If you do not accept these, you cannot move along very effectively in life.
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If a person is thinking incorrectly about what causes what, then a person cannot or will not manage life effectively.
Always, if we want to create a desired result, we have to identify and implement something that causes the desired result. (This is simple cause-effect, which you MUST understand and accept if you are to be effective in life.)
If we think desired results happen magically, then we are out of control - and a little too far along the scale toward insanity, too far from high sanity.
People who do not do well in life are the victims of "out there" (circumstances and other people determine how I feel, often languaged in the passive form of "make me feel").
People who do well in life see that circumstances and other people are just neutral, objective happenings, not causing any emotions directly. They know that only what they add to that neutrality is what makes them feel emotion. They know that it is them causing the emotion, not the outside stuff. (They also see their responsibility in creating, and unraveling, complex behaviors and patterns that seem to have the power over us.)
They live "at cause" over their life. They know that if there is an effect that is not desired that they created it (caused it) - and that they just need to not continue that cause and to decide and then do instead what causes the desired result.
Unless you are convinced of this with regard to the fact that your beliefs/thoughts determine your emotions (and actions), you will not be working on the correct cause and thus will not achieve the results you want in life.
And those who do well in life make sure that they complete all that is needed to cause what is important in life. They do not stop until they achieve the result. They do not "try". They do not say "well, I was too busy". They just do it.
If you want to be successful, you must use Critical Thinking, aka Rational Thinking, which you can practice and use in The Rational Analysis (truth telling and falsity challenging) form, which you'd link to from the ABCDEF page. Successful people will follow the protocol of doing it 4 times a day until they notice one day that they feel much better about life and are 'thinking straight'.
Do you understand this? Will you live your life according to this?
I hope you will not stop until you've achieved true happiness (and that you enjoy the many benefits along the way as you learn and grow).
Keith
Although there are a number of good sources of how to understand and apply these principles and practices, I single out to recommend you to Help Yourself To Happiness, Maxie C. Maultsby, Jr., M.D..
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If a person is thinking incorrectly about what causes what, then a person cannot or will not manage life effectively.
Always, if we want to create a desired result, we have to identify and implement something that causes the desired result. (This is simple cause-effect, which you MUST understand and accept if you are to be effective in life.)
If we think desired results happen magically, then we are out of control - and a little too far along the scale toward insanity, too far from high sanity.
People who do not do well in life are the victims of "out there" (circumstances and other people determine how I feel, often languaged in the passive form of "make me feel").
People who do well in life see that circumstances and other people are just neutral, objective happenings, not causing any emotions directly. They know that only what they add to that neutrality is what makes them feel emotion. They know that it is them causing the emotion, not the outside stuff. (They also see their responsibility in creating, and unraveling, complex behaviors and patterns that seem to have the power over us.)
They live "at cause" over their life. They know that if there is an effect that is not desired that they created it (caused it) - and that they just need to not continue that cause and to decide and then do instead what causes the desired result.
Unless you are convinced of this with regard to the fact that your beliefs/thoughts determine your emotions (and actions), you will not be working on the correct cause and thus will not achieve the results you want in life.
And those who do well in life make sure that they complete all that is needed to cause what is important in life. They do not stop until they achieve the result. They do not "try". They do not say "well, I was too busy". They just do it.
If you want to be successful, you must use Critical Thinking, aka Rational Thinking, which you can practice and use in The Rational Analysis (truth telling and falsity challenging) form, which you'd link to from the ABCDEF page. Successful people will follow the protocol of doing it 4 times a day until they notice one day that they feel much better about life and are 'thinking straight'.
Do you understand this? Will you live your life according to this?
I hope you will not stop until you've achieved true happiness (and that you enjoy the many benefits along the way as you learn and grow).
Keith
Although there are a number of good sources of how to understand and apply these principles and practices, I single out to recommend you to Help Yourself To Happiness, Maxie C. Maultsby, Jr., M.D..
Friday, November 11, 2011
Metaprograms And Your Happiness
We often try to solve a problem by not working at solving the problem directly, in a kind of wishful thinking.
We feel lonely and then we use an affirmation to cover it over or we do something else to make us feel better. That's all good stuff, but it is not the same as solving the problem.
One of the problems with problems is that they are based on a number of components and have some complexity.
We humans basically operate mechanically off of metaprogams, which are master programs that are a combination of other programs.
We can't "solve" these problems all at once or in some simple way anymore than we can eat an elephant all at once. We can only do it a bite (a piece) at a time - and eventually we'll have the result of having eaten an elephant.
Metaprograms can be programs that cause a problem or they can be programs that cause a good result.
For instance, at Heartmath they get good results by using metaprograms that include a desirable effect, caused on purpose.
You are asked to get in touch with your heart. That means something to you (i.e. you have a metaprogram associated with it), which usually results in deeper and slower breathing, a softening, and a good feeling and so on. All we have to do is initiate the metaprogram and we're off and running - in a good direction.
So we want to use the good metaprogram and to correct the bad feeling metaprograms - and to the extent we do the latter, we can make very, very rapid and deep changes in how we experience life. If we don't, then guess what!? We get to repeat the bad program over and over and over and over - Sisyphus-like.
See Metaprograms.
One thing that would be good for you to do, and then share with me, is make up a list of "good feeling" metaprograms. That list will give us lots of metaprograms to initiate to "feel good", which are healthy than eating ice cream to create that feeling.
Yours toward happiness,
Keith
We feel lonely and then we use an affirmation to cover it over or we do something else to make us feel better. That's all good stuff, but it is not the same as solving the problem.
One of the problems with problems is that they are based on a number of components and have some complexity.
We humans basically operate mechanically off of metaprogams, which are master programs that are a combination of other programs.
We can't "solve" these problems all at once or in some simple way anymore than we can eat an elephant all at once. We can only do it a bite (a piece) at a time - and eventually we'll have the result of having eaten an elephant.
Metaprograms can be programs that cause a problem or they can be programs that cause a good result.
For instance, at Heartmath they get good results by using metaprograms that include a desirable effect, caused on purpose.
You are asked to get in touch with your heart. That means something to you (i.e. you have a metaprogram associated with it), which usually results in deeper and slower breathing, a softening, and a good feeling and so on. All we have to do is initiate the metaprogram and we're off and running - in a good direction.
So we want to use the good metaprogram and to correct the bad feeling metaprograms - and to the extent we do the latter, we can make very, very rapid and deep changes in how we experience life. If we don't, then guess what!? We get to repeat the bad program over and over and over and over - Sisyphus-like.
See Metaprograms.
One thing that would be good for you to do, and then share with me, is make up a list of "good feeling" metaprograms. That list will give us lots of metaprograms to initiate to "feel good", which are healthy than eating ice cream to create that feeling.
Yours toward happiness,
Keith
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
RULING YOUR OWN WORLD, INSTEAD OF...
"Unless you thoroughly create a new version of yourself, you will keep operating as the old version. What could be simpler as an idea? I recommend, as your life depends on it, that you create a new, higher version of yourself that is fully reaping all the happiness that is so available to us as humans."
The BuddhaKahuna
Although this is so very basic, few people see that they are continuing to live their old life (their old fears and beleived threats).
In this conversation with Barbara, we address the seemingly uncontrollable feelings (of fear and of rage) and her "conversation" about it. She has now reached a stage where she is ready to alter her conversation - ready in terms of capabilities - but not ready yet to actually choose to "do the work" that is necessary.
In this piece, we cover how we set ourselves up for this and what the problem sequence is and how to solve it and becoming totally no longer a people pleaser.
Read: 9/21/10 Self-creation of "feeling bad","acting bad", and stopping that! (Use the link below and link to this piece just under Intro, on the upper left.)
I hope this ties together much of your training in self-management AND that you make the key and vital decision that will have you controlling your life rather than have circumstances and people rule your world!
Keith
(This piece is under the Barbara Section, Content And Links.)
The BuddhaKahuna
Although this is so very basic, few people see that they are continuing to live their old life (their old fears and beleived threats).
In this conversation with Barbara, we address the seemingly uncontrollable feelings (of fear and of rage) and her "conversation" about it. She has now reached a stage where she is ready to alter her conversation - ready in terms of capabilities - but not ready yet to actually choose to "do the work" that is necessary.
In this piece, we cover how we set ourselves up for this and what the problem sequence is and how to solve it and becoming totally no longer a people pleaser.
Read: 9/21/10 Self-creation of "feeling bad","acting bad", and stopping that! (Use the link below and link to this piece just under Intro, on the upper left.)
I hope this ties together much of your training in self-management AND that you make the key and vital decision that will have you controlling your life rather than have circumstances and people rule your world!
Keith
(This piece is under the Barbara Section, Content And Links.)
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